Monday, 30 April 2012

The Teenager's Survival Kit

Jay Writes -
I'm taking over the blog for a post about celebrating Luke's 13th birthday. He becomes a teenager, with all the baggage that involves. He's written what he knows about it on the previous blog post, but how he truly feels has been pretty negative.
Luke explained that he hated the perception of teenagers society has. He resented that people of his age are characterised as rude, thuggish, aggressive, untrustworthy and antisocial.  Between that, spots and exams he was struggling to find a positive way to view the years ahead.

Never one to shy away from a challenge, I set out to find a positive approach to offer him.  I'm fortunate in having a fantastic cohort of friends in real life and online, so I appealed the them for help.  I asked everyone to text, email, tweet or comment on Facebook sharing something good about their own teen experience. Here are a selection of replies -

  • Being taken more seriously than before
  • dressing like Goth/punk/indie kid and heading to a club
  • Everyone else is finally growing up too, so the immature ones will catch up to Luke and friendships become easier
  • being able to travel on your own, on buses or trains mostly, but also self-propelling to friends' houses that are further afield
  • discovering a huge world of music
  • straddling childhood and adulthood - being more confident, responsible and individual but still being able to play and be ridiculous
  • making your own mind up on issues, being able to think critically
  • learning things your parents don't know
  • experimenting with different personas and styles while you find what suits you
  • getting first jobs like paper rounds and babysitting, and spending the money however you like
And from very nearly everyone - having more freedom without the responsibility adulthood brings

I decided to make Luke a Teenager's Survival Kit, with things to get him past the tricky things opportunities to sample new things and styles, and to meet some of his changing needs. He opened it this morning and was very pleased.

To sidestep the bad bits - 

 No need to be rude

No need to be smelly or spotty

To experiment with different styles - 









Also a black eyeliner for Goth but I forgot to photograph that

Freedom to go places and try new stuff

New music, new film downloads

trying a new genre of books

Bus pass

Celebrating his awesomeness

Baggy T ideal for our home educated dude

Still having fun being a kid

a case I sewed for his new Kindle

A lockable box for private stuff

A decent pen to express himself with

Always be yourself. Unless you can be Batman
Always be Batman

So there we are  - a big box of presents to make being a teenager ace.  Which works out nicely, because Luke IS ace.

Sunday, 29 April 2012

Becoming a teen

Becoming a teen is something that all people go through during their lives. It starts when a child is about 14-16 years old. Then a lot of hormones are released. This causes huge physical and mental changes in the teen.On the physical side of things the teen will experience huge growth spurts. His height will increase, his hair will become greasier because of the increased amount of sweating his armpit hair will grow as will his pubic hair. His penis will become bigger and his face may become covered in spots. These are just a few of the many physical changes that will happen to a teen when the hormones are released and start working.Then there is the mental side of things. While they don’t go insane teens will begin thinking about things like how a girl looks and would he want to have sex with her and lots of other things that. These can also appear in dreams causing what is known as a wet dream. As well as this, all experiences that teenagers have are enhanced. This part of being a teenager is a double bladed knife. So when a teen has something bad happen to him it feels awful and when something good happens it feels amazing. As well as this teenagers are known to try being different people. So one week Jimmy might be a Goth and the next week he might be a cheerful go-getter.
All in all I think that being a teenager is going to a very VERY bumpy ride. I’m not yet sure what sort of opinion I should have towards it so I think I will stay neutral on this particular debate. Being a teen is something that brings in a lot of freedom and responsibility.